Relationships: What is “Healthy”?

Relationships: What is “Healthy”?
September 15, 2010 Kim Goldman

Everyone is entitled to have a healthy relationship. There are certain expectations that one should have while in a relationship. It is sometimes hard to set boundaries in a relationship but this is a necessary process. These are examples of things that are contained in a healthy relationship.


  • Respect and Communication (discuss and be clear on your physical boundaries)
  • No abuse (verbal, physical, or sexual)
  • Space; you and your partner can do things without each other and hang out with other people without you or your partner getting upset, accusing the other of cheating, etc.
  • Comfortable with each other physically.
  • Trust; no spying on each other, checking pagers, or having other people give “reports”
  • Attraction


  • Respect
  • No put-downs especially when fighting or angry at one another.
  • Comfortable communicating with each other
  • No manipulation or blaming
  • Communication (if necessary talk about how you communicate when you fight and when you are not fighting.)
  • Love
  • Friendship
  • Security
  • Understanding
  • Caring
  • NOT being “over jealous”


  • Respect
  • Trust and honesty
  • Communication (talk about expectations of what you’re willing or not willing to do, safe sex, history, and consequences.
  • No pressure
  • Comfortable to say yes and no at all times to any activity

You have a right to…

  • Be alone
  • Express your ideas
  • Express your feelings, even if they’re negative
  • Choose your work and your religion
  • Live without fear
  • Have time to yourself
  • Spend your own money however you want to
  • Get emotional support from your family and friends
  • Choose your friends – men and women
  • Express your strengths, abilities, and talents
  • Decide if you want to participate in sexual acts or not.
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