We all know how hard it can be to strike up a conversation with our teens … battling for their attention (oh, how the tables have turned from when they were toddlers!) can be very difficult and frustrating for some and often can result in no communication at all.
And since we have all been adhering to the Safer at Home guidelines, we are spending a lot of time together; it’s possible we have reached our conversation quotas! But don’t stop. This is a great time to keep connecting…keep your kids thoughts going…keep your questions (not interrogations) coming…keep the active listening as a top priority…and remember EVERY ANSWER IS A GOOD ANSWER!
We thought it would be helpful to give you a head start and some easy going questions to spark conversation with your kids.
- If you could be a teacher for one day, what class would you teach and why?
- You are X age now, if you could go back in time or jump ahead, what age would you want to be?
- What fictional character (movies, tv, books, etc) do you most relate to?
- If you could have dinner with five people (living or dead), who would they be?
- What is your most favorite family memory so far?
- Do you believe in ghosts?
- What song makes you want to get up dance?
- What would be the first thing you would do, if you won the lottery?
- What is your favorite season?
- What is funniest gift you have given or received?
- Who do you think you are most like, in our family?
- Have you ever had to talk your friends out of doing something really risky or illegal?
- What do you do when you think nobody is watching?
COVID 19 Specific:
- How are you holding up?
- What kinds of fears/concerns do you have when the Safer at Home restrictions are lifted?
- How has it been not seeing friends/teammates/teachers?
- What do you miss most about your daily routine, if anything?
- What kinds of things have you discovered about yourself (or our family) that you didn’t notice before?
- What kinds of things can I can do to make it easier at home?
- Being separated or isolated from our “normal life” can provoke anxiety or increase depression. I am here for you, if you feel any of that … (sometimes long pauses, initiate a response)
- Your mental health (as is your physical health) is highly important to me … if it isn’t me, I can find someone to help if you are feeling stuck, or sad, or angry … all of it is OK. (Maybe come up with a code word that your child can say or text to you, that lets you know they need help, but can’t find the right words.)