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Violence is a serious public health problem in the United States. From infants to the elderly, it affects people in all stages of life. Many more survive violence and are left with permanent physical and emotional scars. Violence also erodes communities by reducing productivity, decreasing property values, and disrupting social services.

Violence

Signs of Child Abuse

Signs of Child Abuse

FEBRUARY: NATIONAL TEEN DATING VIOLENCE AWARENESS AND PREVENTION MONTH

FEBRUARY: NATIONAL TEEN DATING VIOLENCE AWARENESS AND PREVENTION MONTH

Violence Amongst our Teens

Violence Amongst our Teens

Violence Impacts Teens and Adults

Violence Impacts Teens and Adults

Teen facing charges for 29 counts of sexual assault

Teen facing charges for 29 counts of sexual assault

TAALK – Breaking the Silence that Surrounds Child Sexual Abuse

TAALK – Breaking the Silence that Surrounds Child Sexual Abuse

Bullying

Bullying

Violence at School

Violence at School

Sexual Assault

Sexual Assault

  • Signs of Child Abuse

    Child-Abuse
    Child abuse and neglect is an issue that affects many lives in the United States – every 10 seconds, a report of child abuse is made and 6.6 million children are referred for help each year. As it negatively impacts many lives, it is important to be aware of what constitutes child abuse and neglect, as well as what you can do if you suspect, witness, or are experiencing child abuse.

    Child abuse is broken down into multiple categories; physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional/psychological abuse, verbal abuse or neglect.

    Physical Abuse

    Physical abuse is defined as using physical force intentionally against a child that can harm their health, survival or activity. Physical abuse includes hitting, beating, kicking, shaking, biting, strangling, scalding, burning, poisoning, and suffocating.

    Signs of possible physical abuse include:

    • Injuries such as bruises, wounds, or burns that are not consistent with the explanation given for them
    • Injuries that occur in places on the body that are not normally exposed to falls or play
    • Injuries that have not received medical attention
    • Behavioral extremes like becoming emotionally/socially withdrawn, aggressive, or depressive.
    • Inappropriate or excessive fear of parent or caretaker.
    • Unusual shyness, wariness of physical contact.

    Sexual Abuse

    Sexual abuse is when a child is involved in a sexual act aimed toward the physical gratification or financial profit of the person committed to the act. Sexual abuse includes indecent exposure of the genitals to a child, asking or pressuring a child to engage in sexual activities, having sexual contact with a child, physical contact with the child’s genitals, or using a child to produce child pornography.

    Signs of possible sexual abuse include:

    • Any allegations made by a child concerning sexual abuse
    • Excessive preoccupation with sexual matters and inappropriate knowledge of sexual behaviors for their age
    • Urinary tract infections, unexplained stomach pains, or frequent sore throats
    • Sexual provocation towards adults
    • Inappropriate bed-sharing arrangements at home

    Verbal Abuse 

    Verbal Abuse, also known as reviling or ” verbal bullying,” is described as a negative defining statement told to the victim or about the victim, or by withholding any response, thereby defining the target as non-existent

    Signs of possible verbal abuse:

    • Yelling, shouting, swearing, continuously arguing, interrupting, talking over you, put downs, using loud threatening language and tone to cause fear, name calling, intimidating you, mocking you, abusive language.

    Emotional Abuse

    Emotional abuse, also called psychological abuse, is defined as any act including confinement, isolation, verbal assault, humiliation, intimidation, or any other treatment which may harm a child’s identity, dignity, and self-worth.

    Signs of possible emotional abuse include:

    • Depression, aggression, extreme anxiety, or any extreme changes or regression in mood or behavior
    • Extreme shyness or passivity
    • Sudden underachievement or inability to concentrate
    • Seeking attention from adults and not playing well with other children
    • Negative statements about themselves
    • Highly aggressive or cruel others

    Neglect

    Child neglect is the failure of the caretaker to provide food, clothing, shelter, medical care, or supervision to the degree that the child’s health, safety, and well-being are threatened with harm.

    Some possible signs of neglect include:

    • Frequent absence from school
    • Begging or stealing food or money
    • Lacking needed medical and dental care
    • Consistently dirty
    • Frequently hungry or overeating junk food
    • Untreated illnesses or physical complaints

    What to Do If You Suspect or Witness Child Abuse

    If you suspect a child is being abused, it’s critical to get them the help he or she needs. Reporting child abuse seems so official. Many people are reluctant to get involved in other families’ lives.

    Understanding some of the myths behind reporting may help put your mind at ease if you need to report child abuse.

    • I don’t want to interfere in someone else’s family. The effects of child abuse are lifelong, affecting future relationships, self-esteem, and sadly putting even more children at risk of abuse as the cycle continues. Help break the cycle of child abuse.
    • What if I break up someone’s home? The priority in child protective services is keeping children in the home. A child abuse report does not mean a child is automatically removed from the home—unless the child is clearly in danger. Support such as parenting classes, anger management or other resources may be offered first to parents if safe for the child.
    • They will know it was me who called. Reporting is anonymous. In most places, you do not have to give your name when you report child abuse. The child abuser cannot find out who made the report of child abuse.
    • It won’t make a difference what I have to say. If you have a gut feeling that something is wrong, it is better to be safe than sorry. Even if you don’t see the whole picture, others may have noticed as well, and a pattern can help identify child abuse that might have otherwise slipped through the cracks.

    To report suspected child abuse or neglect, or to talk to someone to figure out if what you’re observing is reportable, you can call your local law enforcement agency, the National Child Abuse Resource  or dial 911.

     

    Sources:

    https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse-statistics/

    http://www.kirkleessafeguardingchildren.co.uk/signs-of-abuse.html

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_abuse

     

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  • FEBRUARY: NATIONAL TEEN DATING VIOLENCE AWARENESS AND PREVENTION MONTH

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    It is not rare when we hear a student share with us about the unhealthy relationships in their life.  Whether it’s a first time boyfriend or girlfriend, a sibling, a parent, a classmate or a best friend … Our kids are learning boundaries, how to express their needs, how to pick and choose who they want to surround themselves with and how to assert their voice when something isn’t right.  So it’s no wonder to us that the statistics of Teen Dating Violence are so high.

    “Adolescents and adults are often unaware that teens experience dating violence.  In a nationwide survey, 9.4 percent of high school students report being hit, slapped, or physically hurt on purpose by their boyfriend or girlfriend in the 12 months prior to the survey. (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2011 Youth Risk Behavior Survey). About 1 in 5 women and nearly 1 in 7 men who ever experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner, first experienced some form of partner violence between 11 and 17 years of age (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey).”

     

    Why Focus on Young People?

    • Girls and young women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of intimate partner violence — almost triple the national average.
    • Violent behavior typically begins between the ages of 12 and 18.
    • The severity of intimate partner violence is often greater in cases where the pattern of abuse was established in adolescence.
    • About 72% of eighth and ninth graders are “dating”.

     

    What are the consequences of dating violence?

    As teens develop emotionally, they are heavily influenced by their relationship experiences. Healthy relationship behaviors can have  a positive effect on a teen’s emotional development.

    Unhealthy, abusive or violent relationships can cause short term and long -term negative effects, or consequences to the developing teen.:

    • Put the victims at higher risk for substance abuse, eating disorders, risky sexual behavior and further domestic violence.
    • Being physically or sexually abused makes teen girls six times more likely to become pregnant and twice as likely to get a STI.
    • Half of youth who have been victims of both dating violence and rape attempt suicide, compared to 12.5% of non-abused girls and 5.4% of non-abused boys.

     

    Is your boy/girlfriend likely to abuse you?

    • Showing symptoms of trauma
    • Using alcohol
    • Having friends involved in dating violence
    • Having problem behaviors in other areas
    • Believing dating violence is okay
    • Being exposed to harsh parenting or inconsistent discipline
    • Not having parental supervision, monitoring, or warm relationships with parents

     

     

    For more information:

    Love is Respect

    Safe Horizon

     

     

    Hotline Phone Numbers

    Domestic Violence Hotline:
800.621.HOPE (4673)

    Crime Victims Hotline:
866.689.HELP (4357)

    Rape & Sexual Assault Hotline:
212.227.3000

     

    FEBRUARY IS NATIONAL TEEN DATING VIOLENCE AWARENESS AND PREVENTION MONTH.  CLICK HERE FOR PRESIDENT OBAMA’S PROCLAMATION

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  • Violence Amongst our Teens


    With another unfortunate and saddening school shooting in Newtown, Connecticut which left 27 families without a loved one, we are reminded once again to look at and be thankful for the safety of our children.  As we send our heartfelt thoughts to those affected by this tragedy, we must also look into our own schools and the violence in our teens’ lives.

    While we are fortunate that these fatal tragedies don’t happen daily, there is a great deal of violence in our schools that goes nearly unmentioned and unattended to. A recent study from Duke University found that until 2010, more teens were threatened than actually injured, however, these trends have now merged so that both threats and injuries occur at the same level.  In a given year there are 1.7 million nonfatal crimes committed at schools, ranging from assault to theft.  About one-third of students age 12 and up are the victims of school bullying.  Of this bullying, middle schools appear to have the highest rates of bullying with nearly 43% of students reporting being bullied.

    There are many factors that contribute to teen violence.

      • The increased accessibility to violence that comes with access to a computer and television appears to have a large influence on teens.  A study reported in 2008 found that teens and preteens aged 10 – 15 who were frequent visitors to websites that included depictions of violence by real people, were five times more likely to report that they themselves had engaged in violent behavior than were young people of the same age who did not visit such websites.  Today teens spend a great deal of time with computers, phones, televisions and video games.  While these all seem like harmless devices it is important to remember that too much exposure can lead to increased violence in teens.

     

      • Another reason teens engage in violent behavior is to improve and maintain their social status.  Studies show that young people who want to be better appreciated and respected within their group are the most likely to be violent.  Violence appears to maintain social status by intimidating other students and lowering others self-confidence.  This violence can in turn increase violence within the school because those who experience bullying or teasing may become enraged enough to begin acting out in revenge and engage in violence themselves.

     

    • Lastly, teen violence can be caused by frustration due to learning disorders, emotional distress, or attention deficits.  In some cases teens do not know how to appropriately channel their frustrations and act out in anger as a form of release.

     

    As we learn more about the factors leading up to violence in our teens, it is important to take steps to prevent such horrific crimes from happening within the safety of our schools and within our community.

     

      • Monitoring and limiting our children’s exposure to violence in movies and television, on the internet and in video games is important to decreasing rates of violence.

     

      • Another key factor in reducing violence amongst our teens is to ensure that teens are not exposed to violence within the home.  A teen growing up with their mother being abused will more likely be a violent teenager and adult, than a teen that grows up in a loving home.  Creating a home environment of respect and courtesy teaches children how to respect one another and teaches them to consider the feelings of others.

     

      • Lastly, a great way to reduce teen violence is to stay involved in the lives of our teens.  Keeping open communication allows teens to express their feelings in more appropriate ways.  Involvement also permits us to notice warning signs of violence including increased seclusion and poor behavior.  It is important that we speak with our teens and offer our support.

     

    Violence is preventable and with effort and involvement, we can reduce tragedies such as this weekend’s occurring.

     

    Additional Resources

    Kcentv.com http://www.kcentv.com/Global/story.asp?S=12964174

    Do something.org  http://www.dosomething.org/tipsandtools/11-facts-about-school-violence

    Teen Violence Statistics http://www.teenviolencestatistics.com/content/media-and-teen-violence.html

    Teenhelp.com  http://www.teenhelp.com/teen-violence/violence-causes.html

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  • Violence Impacts Teens and Adults

    In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, the Youth Project is talking to kids about Healthy and Safe Relationships.

    Did you know?

    • 1 in 3 adolescents in the US is a victim of verbal, emotional, sexual and physical abuse by a dating partner
    • Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend had threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a break-up
    • Only half of all tweens (age 11-14) claim to know the warning signs of a bad/hurtful relationship
    • Twenty-four percent of 14 to 17-year-olds know at least one student who has been the victim of dating violence, yet 81% of parents either believe teen dating violence is not an issue or admit they don’t know if it is an issue
    • Less than 25% of teens say they have discussed dating violence with their parents
    • Nearly 80% of girls who have been physically abused in their intimate relationships continue to date their abuser

    Violence is related to certain risk factors.  Risks of having unhealthy relationships increase for teens who:

    •  Use alcohol or drugs.
    •  Can’t manage anger or frustration.
    •  Hang out with violent peers.
    •  Have multiple sexual partners.
    •  Have a friend involved in dating violence.
    •  Are depressed or anxious.
    •  Have learning difficulties and other problems at school.
    •  Don’t have parental supervision and support.
    •  Witness violence at home or in the community.
    •  Have a history of aggressive behavior or bullying.

    Victims of teen dating violence are more likely to do poorly in school, and report binge drinking, suicide attempts, and physical fighting.  Victims may also carry the patterns of violence into future relationships.  However, dating violence can be prevented when teens, families, organizations, and communities work together to implement effective prevention strategies.

    Red Flags and Warning Signs:  (From www.safeyouth.org)

    Teenagers generally do not tell people when they are involved in a violent relationship, so it is important for adults to be alert for signs that a teen may be involved in a relationship that is, or has the potential to become, abusive. Some of the following signs are just part of being a teenager. But, when these changes happen suddenly, or without an explanation, there may be cause for concern.

    • Does the individual have unexplained bruises, scratches, or injuries?
    • Do you see signs that the individual is afraid of his/her boyfriend or girlfriend?
    • Does the boyfriend or girlfriend seem to try to control the individual’s behavior, making all of the decisions, checking up on his/her behavior, demanding to know who the individual has been with, and acting jealous and possessive?
    • Does the boyfriend or girlfriend lash out, criticize, or insult the individual?
    • Does the individual apologize for the boyfriend or girlfriend’s behavior to you and others? Has the individual casually mentioned the boyfriend or girlfriend’s temper or violent behavior, but then laughed it off as a joke?
    • Have you seen the boyfriend or girlfriend be abusive towards other people or things?
    • Does the individual seem to have lost interest or to be giving up things that were once important? Has he/she lost interest in school or other activities?
    • Has the individual’s appearance or behavior suddenly changed?
    • Has the individual stopped spending time with friends and family?
    • Have you seen sudden changes in the individual’s mood or personality?
    • Is the individual becoming anxious or depressed, acting out, or being secretive? Is the individual avoiding eye contact, having ‘crying jags’ or getting ‘hysterical?’
    • Has the individual recently started using alcohol or drugs?

    If you suspect or know that your child is being abused by a partner, you have resources:

    • Call law enforcement or 911
    • Call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
    • Make a safety plan with your child
    • Stay in communication with your teen; let them know they can open up to you no matter what.

     

    For more information on how to understand Teen Dating Violence

    Additional Resources:

    Love is Respect

    Center for Disease Control and Prevention

    Break The Cycle

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  • Teen facing charges for 29 counts of sexual assault

    If you haven’t heard yet, a local Santa Clarita teen (19 years old) is facing charges for 29 counts of sexual assault involving 14 girls, some as young as 12 years old. (http://www.dailynews.com/news/ci_19592292)

    This disturbing news and several key discussions with a few of the school sites we service has served as a catalyst for a critical program that will soon be offered by the Santa Clarita Valley Youth Project. We are diligently working on a presentation that will not only address this important and timely topic, but provide teens with information to arm and empower themselves when facing choices that could ultimately impact the rest of their lives. Discussions about the dangers of Facebook and social media as a whole, as well as texting, online chat rooms, the use of cameras/video and other technologies need to happen now. With more teens receiving phones, computers, tablets and other means of technology over the holidays, it will open them up more than ever for potential online bullying, sexual promiscuity and even increase the chances of being targeted by predators.

    Our unique access to teens and their thoughts and feelings gives us a rare opportunity to talk openly about these topics. More and more, we have heard about how technology is used as a way to engage in risky behavior. We are confident that our presentation will enlighten teens about the risk, consequences and life-long repercussions and that being armed with this information could mean the difference between engaging and thinking twice about who they communicate with as well as what information they share, whether they choose to or feel coerced into doing so.

    Our goal is to bridge the gap between teens and the parents/faculty who work so hard to protect them by educating both the youth as well as parents. Providing teens and parents information on the dangers and warning signs, helping them find ways to prevent unsafe situations to begin with and understanding and utilizing online security are just a few ways we can reach families and keep our teens educated and safe from potential devastation.

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  • TAALK – Breaking the Silence that Surrounds Child Sexual Abuse

    1 in 4 girls will be sexually abused before the age of 18

    1 in 6 boys will be sexually abused before the age of 18
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    30-40% of victims are abused by a family member

    Another 50% by someone they know and trust

    

    As you can imagine and have probably experienced for yourself, child sexual abuse is a difficult subject for most adults to talk about, let alone the children who are its victims. As such we must begin with the basics and break the silence. In doing so, we achieve five key objectives as follows:  CLICK HERE FOR MORE INFORMATION

    TAALK will host a 24 hour internet radio show with guest speakers each hour covering a variety of topics related to child sexual abuse awareness, prevention and support. Hear 60+ speakers from around the world with the brightest minds and the biggest hearts. It’s an event you won’t want to miss!

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  • Bullying

    Bullying is when a person is picked on over and over again by an individual or group with more power, either in terms of physical strength or social standing.

    Every day thousands of teens wake up afraid to go to school. Bullying is a problem that affects millions of students, and it has everyone worried, not just the kids on its receiving end.  Yet because parents, teachers, and other adults don’t always see it, they may not understand how extreme bullying can get.

    Two of the main reasons people are bullied are because of appearance and social status. Bullies pick on the people they think don’t fit in, maybe because of how they look, how they act (for example, kids who are shy and withdrawn), their race or religion, or because the bullies think their target may be gay or lesbian.

    Some bullies attack their targets physically, which can mean anything from shoving or tripping to punching or hitting, or even sexual assault. Others use psychological control or verbal insults to put themselves in charge. For example, people in popular groups or cliques often bully people they categorize as different by excluding them or gossiping about them (psychological bullying). They may also taunt or tease their targets (verbal bullying).

    Verbal bullying can also involve sending cruel instant or email messages or even posting insults about a person on a website — practices that are known as cyberbullying.

    What can you do if you are being bullied?

    • Talk about it. It may help to talk to a guidance counselor, teacher, or friend or a trusted adult— anyone who can give you the support you need. Talking can be a good outlet for the fears and frustrations that can build when you’re being bullied.  It may be suggested to you, that your situation be reported to authorities; don’t get scared by that concept – it’s important to remember that your safety is the number one concern; staying silent can give the bully more freedom to become more violent.
    • Ignore the bully and walk away. It’s definitely not a coward’s response — sometimes it can be harder than losing your temper. Bullies thrive on the reaction they get, and if you walk away, or ignore hurtful emails or instant messages, you’re telling the bully that you just don’t care. Sooner or later the bully will probably get bored with trying to bother you. Walk tall and hold your head high. Using this type of body language sends a message that you’re not vulnerable.
    • Avoid being alone. If you’re in a bullying situation that you think may escalate into physical violence, try to avoid being alone (and if you have a friend in this situation, spend as much time as you can together). Try to remain part of a group by walking home at the same time as other people or by sticking close to friends or classmates during the times that the bullying takes place.
    • Hold the anger. Who doesn’t want to get really upset with a bully? But that’s exactly the response he or she is trying to get. Bullies want to know they have control over your emotions. If you’re in a situation where you have to deal with a bully and you can’t walk away with poise, use humor — it can throw the bully off guard. Work out your anger in another way, such as through exercise or writing it down (make sure you tear up any letters or notes you write in anger).
    • Don’t get physical. However you choose to deal with a bully, don’t use physical force (like kicking, hitting, or pushing). Not only are you showing your anger, you can never be sure what the bully will do in response. You are more likely to be hurt and get in to trouble if you use violence against a bully. You can stand up for yourself in other ways, such as gaining control of the situation by walking away or by being assertive in your actions. Some adults believe that bullying is a part of growing up (even that it is character building) and that hitting back is the only way to tackle the problem. But that’s not the case. Aggressive responses tend to lead to more violence and more bullying for the victims.
    • Practice confidence. Practice ways to respond to the bully verbally or through your behavior. Practice feeling good about yourself (even if you have to fake it at first).
    • Take charge of your life. You can’t control other people’s actions, but you can stay true to yourself. Think about ways to feel your best — and your strongest — so that other kids may give up the teasing. Exercise is one way to feel strong and powerful. (It’s a great mood lifter, too!) Learn a martial art or take a class like yoga. Another way to gain confidence is to hone your skills in something like chess, art, music, computers, or writing. Joining a class, club, or gym is a great way to make new friends and feel great about yourself. The confidence you gain will help you ignore the mean kids.
    • Find your (true) friends. If you’ve been bullied with rumors or gossip, all of the above tips (especially ignoring and not reacting) can apply. But take it one step further to help ease feelings of hurt and isolation. Find one or two true friends and confide how the gossip has hurt your feelings. Set the record straight by telling your friends quietly and confidently what’s true and not true about you. Hearing a friend say, “I know the rumor’s not true. I didn’t pay attention to it,” can help you realize that most of the time people see gossip for what it is — petty, rude, and immature.
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  • Violence at School

    Violence at school is a growing concern nationwide. Any and every school is susceptible to violence. The existence of violence in schools is a reflection of violence that occurs within the larger community and society in general.

    Statistics

    • Approximately 160,000 students miss class each school day because they fear physical harm.
    • Nearly one quarter of students in grades 3-12 are somewhat worried or very worried about being harmed while at school.
    • 20% of students in grades 3-12 feel that threats and the use of weapons are major problems in their schools.
    • 77% of teachers felt very safe in or around school, as opposed to only 50% of students.
    • It is estimated that between 100,000 and 135,000 guns are brought into schools on a daily basis nationwide.
    • 22% of boys and 4% of girls report that they have brought weapons to school at some time.
    • Nearly 3 million thefts and violent crimes occur on or near school campuses every year. This equates to almost 16,000 incidents per day or one every six seconds.
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  • Sexual Assault

    Sexual assault is any unwanted sexual contact or sexual intention committed by force, threats of violence, bribes, manipulation, pressure or violence. It includes rape and attempted rape, child molestation and incest. Sexual assault is a crime of violence, anger and control. Assailants can be strangers, acquaintances, friends or family members.

    Research indicates that 1 out of every 3 women, 1 out of every 9 men, and 1 out of every 4 children is sexually assaulted.

    If you have been sexually assaulted

    • Go to a safe place and call someone you trust. If you don’t want to tell someone you know right now, call the RAINN Hotline at 1-800-656-4673.
    • Preserve the evidence. Do not change anything about the scene where the assault occurred. Do not wash any part of your body, comb your hair or change your clothes. If you must change your clothes, put them in a plastic bag.
    • Get medical attention as soon as possible. It is important to be examined medically to detect injury and for possible protection against sexually transmitted diseases.
    • Think about reporting the assault to the police. Telling the police does not mean that you have to prosecute.
    • If you do want to prosecute, it is essential to have a rape exam at a hospital emergency room soon after the assault. To increase your options later, this exam is recommended, even if you are unsure about prosecuting.
    • Remember, the assault is not your fault.

    How you might feel

    Following a sexual assault, you might feel:

    • Shock
    • Embarrassment
    • Shame
    • Guilt
    • Disbelief
    • Anger
    • Anxiety
    • Nothing at all

    These feelings are all normal reactions to a violent crime.

    Take These Precautions

    • First and foremost, think ahead of time about how you would react if you were assaulted.
    • Trust your feelings. If you feel that you are in danger, you probably are.
    • Walk confidently. Be aware of your surroundings. · Stay in well lighted areas.
    • If you find yourself in danger, yell “FIRE.”
    • Check your car before getting in. Keep doors locked and windows up. Before approaching your car, look underneath it at a distance. Sometimes attackers lay underneath the car.
    • Do not pick up hitchhikers.
    • Learn to defend yourself.
    • Do not stop to assist stalled drivers. Drive on and call the police. Do not accept assistance if your car is stalled. Tell anyone who offers help to call the police.

    Facts and Myths About Sexual Assault

    Myth: Rape is sex
    Fact: Rape is not sex. It is a crime motivated by a need to control, humiliate and harm. Rapists use sexual violence as a weapon to hurt and dominate others.

    Myth: Women ask to be raped.
    Fact: The way people look, act or dress does not invite sexual assault. Victims are selected because they appear vulnerable. Sexual assault is an act of violence.

    Myth: Rapists are lonely, sexually unfulfilled men.
    Fact: Studies of convicted male rapists indicate that more than 60% were married and virtually all had normal sexual relationships with women at the time they committed the assault.

    Myth: Boys and men cannot be sexually assaulted.
    Fact: Almost as many boys as girls will be sexually assaulted by age eighteen. One in nine men will be sexually assaulted as an adult.

    Myth: No one can be sexually assaulted against her or his will.
    Fact: Most adult victims, even those who are not phusically harmed, fear injury and death during a sexual assault. Children who are assaulted are often confused, unable to question the power and authority of the abuser, and do not know how to get help.

    Advice for Guys

    • Think about whether you really want to have sex with someone who doesn’t want to have sex with you; how will you feel afterwards if your partner tells you he or she didn’t want to have sex.
    • If you are getting a double message from a woman, speak up and clarify what she wants. If you find yourself in a situation with a woman who is unsure about having sex or is saying “no”, do not go any further.
    • Be sensitive to a person who is unsure whether or not they want to have sex. If you put pressure on them, you might be forcing them.
    • Stay in touch with your sexual desires. Ask yourself if you are really hearing what she wants.
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Confidentiality

The Youth Project prides itself on creating a safe, non-judgmental and confidential setting in which students speak freely and can be assured that the stories they share remain private. However, all students are informed that we are a mandated reporting agency, meaning: if we have reasonable suspicion that a child (under the age of 18) has been mistreated, we are required to file a report with the necessary agencies.

We will report when a student shares information on:
Physical Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Harm to Themselves, Sexual Abuse, Neglect, Harm to Others

Confidentiality:
All sessions are confidential. However, we are a mandated reporting agency and if a student expresses a desire to harm himself or others or if there is reason to suspect child abuse or neglect, we are obligated to report to the appropriate agency. ALL STUDENTS are reminded of this before every session.***

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